Jacques found his soul mate in Harinder Veriah; it was a passion that
knew no cultural bounds. But in Hong Kong, he says she faced racism in
everyday life and believes it was ultimately responsible for her untimely
death in hospital
November 26, 2000:South
China Morning Post --
One afternoon in December 1993, a journalist called Martin Jacques and
a lawyer called Harinder Veriah sat over lunch in Hong Kong and made
a number of life-changing decisions. Jacques, who was 47, lived in London
and had a partner of 18 years; Veriah, who was 26, was Malaysian, lived
in Kuala Lumpur, and was also involved in a relationship. They had met
on Tioman, off the east coast of Malaysia, the previous August. They
had just spent a week together and knew that they couldn't continue life
without each other.
'We agreed we'd
go back and tell our partners,' Jacques says. 'Which we
did. And that she'd come to England in late April. Which she did. We
debated if I'd go and live in Malaysia but she insisted on coming to
England, she planned to do a year's Master's in law at King's London.
Which she did. And that we'd have two children.'
Jacques, sitting at the dining table in his Mid-Levels flat, lowers
and begins to weep. After a while, he says, 'At that lunch on that
Thursday, everything we said we'd do we did, except we only had one
That child, Ravi, is now two. His mother died, aged 33, on January
2000, in the Ruttonjee Hospital of - so an inquest decided last week
natural causes: the official term used to describe what happened was
'sudep' which means 'sudden unexpected death in epilepsy'. After the
verdict, Jacques issued a statement saying that his wife's death was
'entirely avoidable', and added that the fact that 'the coroner should
the hospital's management of my wife as reasonable suggests that
medical standards in Hong Kong are way below what is acceptable in
During the inquest, Jacques had also raised the issue of racism which
picked up by the international media. He told the hearing that on a
his wife, who was ethnic Indian, on New Year's Day, she had said to
'I am at the bottom of the pile here.' When he asked her what she meant,
she replied: 'I am the only Indian here, everyone else is Chinese.'
Now, on a Thursday afternoon two days after the inquest's verdict,
Jacques is discussing racism - what someone has described to him as
big, dirty secret in Hong Kong'. 'I want this case to force a significant
change in the way Hong Kong thinks about racism,' he says. 'There is
question whatsoever that Hari felt that she suffered racial discrimination
the Ruttonjee Hospital. Listen, the person who experienced the racism
the authentic voice of what happened. I know the Ruttonjee issued a
statement denying it - have they interviewed Hari? Have they spoken
The problem with racism is that it's a slippery beast and analysis
of it can
quickly veer headlong into irony. Last week, for instance, The Times
London ran a piece headlined 'Wife's death blamed on Hong Kong racism'
which ended on a note of concern about the quality of Chinese nurses
being imported to Britain and observed, meaningfully, that more than
mainland nurses are already working in the British National Health
'Do you think I'm not aware of that?' says Jacques, heatedly, of the
danger arising from such skewed responses. 'I completely and utterly
disagree with what was written at the end of that story.'
He pauses, thinking about the whole thorny issue; he is an honest and
articulate man who clearly loves language and intellectual conundrums.
Despite the fact that he says he was once a smiling person who no longer
smiles, he is still capable of great animation. Conviction has, of
become his companion. Now, he lifts up his head once more and insists,
'Everyone has the capacity to be racist. But you cannot remain silent
about racism. A friend of mine said to me that maybe I shouldn't say
anything for fear of kindling traditional white racism towards the
cannot agree with that.
'Racism is racism whoever perpetrates it. There are no excuses or
justifications. It must be exposed, not condoned by silence. The treatment
of people of darker skin like Hari is appalling in Hong Kong. I am
Hari a voice when she is now silent.'
This is a story which Jacques describes as 'a terrible fantasy, a fairy
with a terrible ending'. On August 21, 1993, on the island of Tioman,
the east coast of Malaysia, Jacques went for a run. He ran and played
tennis and kept compulsively active until the day Veriah died when
came to a halt. On his run, he had been strangely struck by a woman
saw in the distance. That woman was Veriah, and she happened to be
the same jungle trek Jacques and his partner had signed up for later
'I fell in love with her in 10 minutes,' he says simply. 'I'd never
love at first sight, not even as a teenager, but I did with Hari. It
was as if I
entered her gravitational force-field and, from that moment . . .'
and begins to cry. After several minutes of anguished, silent movement,
he continues, 'I never left it. Not even now. I was completely bewitched
Veriah was in Tioman on a weekend outing with her Kuala Lumpur law
firm. She was the daughter of Karam Singh, the youngest MP in
Malaysia's history. Shortly after she was born, her father was imprisoned
for four years for leading a march of rubber-plantation workers. Her
died when she was six. She grew up clever and fearless and
independent because she had to: there was little security and even
money in her life. Until she met Jacques, she had never left the Malaysian
'I've tried to work out what was the charge of our relationship. Hari
my soul mate. She was . . . I'm not a religious person but I was born
Earth to meet Hari. The meaning of my life is as simple as that. I
now that Hari and I shared fundamental human values. I didn't need
think about it then, I just thought - I'm so happy. I didn't realise
could be so happy.'
In 1994, Veriah came to London and the couple was married two years
later. In November 1998, Veriah came to Hong Kong with her law firm,
Lovells (which has, says Jacques, been tremendously supportive to him
since her death). Jacques, who had a high profile as a columnist and
broadcaster in Britain, came too, intending to write a book on East
'Hari spoke Cantonese and so when she came to Hong Kong, I don't think
she felt she was coming home but she definitely felt she'd have a cultural
advantage. That's not what happened. What happened is that the
attitude of the Hong Kong Chinese towards people of darker skin is
unthinkingly racist. She got racism all the time, everywhere, on the
in the shops, finally, in the hospital.'
Jacques stops, weeps a little, then continues speaking. It's evident
he has a compulsive need to talk; when he's occasionally interrupted
question, he says, politely, 'I'll just finish this' and keeps going,
as if he
has to paint a verbal picture for himself of exactly how it was. Not
item of Veriah's belongings has been moved from the flat. Her shoes
still at the door, where she left them, and the answering machine still
announces 'Martin and Hari's number'. But on the last day of the last
century, which also happened to be her 33rd birthday, she set out to
celebrate new beginnings, and never came home. 'The pain of losing
is . . . terrible. Not because of the way she died, though of course
horrible and painful and brutal, and the truth has been denied. But
not the most painful thing. It was that it was a relationship of such
and it's over and there's nothing after it. For me, my life started
when I met
Hari and it ended when she died.'
In the early hours of New Year's Day, in a taxi queue outside The
Excelsior hotel in Causeway Bay, Veriah had a major epileptic fit.
had her first such fit in 1995, in London. She was taken to the Ruttonjee
Hospital - an institution which, as it happens, was founded by an Indian
philanthropist and businessman called Dhun Ruttonjee. At 8.35am on
January 2, she had another fit. She was injected with 3mg of Valium,
into respiratory depression and her oxygen level began to fall. Her
husband had been summoned by the hospital, and so he was present
when she stopped breathing, went into cardiac arrest and was declared
dead at 12.15pm.
Coroner Andrew Chan Hing-wai observed last week that in the matter
ventilation support 'with the benefit of hindsight, I'm sure more could
been done' but added that 'there was little evidence to suggest that
alter the outcome'.
'Hari's death was entirely avoidable,' says Jacques. 'If she'd been
London teaching hospital, she'd be alive today. The overwhelming view
of the reports I have received from consultants in London is that Hari
through respiratory depression, culminating in respiratory arrest,
failure of the hospital to take prompt action in the form of ventilatory
assistance. I viewed the inquest as essentially a political process
than something that took us to the truth - in fact, at the end of the
think we were further from the truth than we were at the beginning.'
Veriah had two funerals, one in Kuala Lumpur and one in London. She
buried in Highgate Cemetery, in north London. Her body was embalmed
Hong Kong but Jacques wasn't happy with the result, so she was not
openly displayed (as is usually the custom) in front of her Sikh relatives.
Instead, he had several photographs of her blown up to poster size,
these were hung at the funeral.
Jacques produces the posters during this interview, plucking them out
the chaos of his office, with its court papers and newspaper clippings
strewn across the floor (and a copy of a book called The Soul In Grief
half-hidden under the sheaves).
He has not added a single sentence to his Asian book since Veriah's
death. Instead, he has typed 102,000 words of a memoir, currently with
his agent in London, which has the working title For Ravi: The Story
Hari And Martin.
Because, of course, Veriah left a part of herself behind in their son.
early period, Ravi made my pain worse, I couldn't spend more than an
hour with him. He's still a constant reminder but now I can see Hari
Ravi. He's kept me alive - if it hadn't been for Ravi, I'd be dead.'
He leans over to Ravi, who has appeared at the table, looking like
delicate, impish ghost of the woman who is smiling out of the posters,
he croons, 'You were like a river together, you and Hari. So flowing,
natural, so beautiful.' In a few months' time, he will take his son
London. 'But Hong Kong should not think I will fall silent about anything.
want to get justice, I don't want anyone to think that this is finished
While the inquest was going on last week, it so happened that Ravi
and had to be taken to the Canossa Hospital, where he spent four days
on a drip. It was the first time Jacques had been in a Hong Kong hospital
since Veriah died. How, at that awkward legal moment, did he find the
nurses? Jacques smiles fleetingly. 'They couldn't have been better.'
A shadow crosses his face, then he adds, 'Mentally I kept measuring
number of hours Hari had been in hospital against the number of hours
Ravi was in hospital and wondering whether Ravi would last. If you've
had that experience, your view of hospitals can never be the same.'
He rubs his forehead with his hands - a constant gesture as if, by
so, he can erase nightmare memories - and Hari's silver wedding ring
gleams on his finger. He looks up. 'We all know that the worst can
but basically, we never believe that it will. Most of my being can't
that. Every single morning I have to re-introduce myself to the fact
Hari is dead.'